The Grass Doctor - Is it the British Culture or just my In lawns?

Is it the British Culture or just my In lawns?

Is it the British Culture or just my In lawns? They came to spend the Christmas holidays with us and they along with brother and sister in law act as though as they are in a 5 star hotel while my husband and I spend the whole day catering for them, cleaning up after them as they refuse even to throw their rubbish in the bins provided. I don't want next year to be the same. What should I do

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Its just your in laws,Tell your husband your not doing that again and next year you would like to go out/away for Christmas or say it would be nice to go to them for a change and do the same to them.
Put weedkiller in their food then cut them down to size with a mower. That's the best way of dealing with unruly lawns
Most lawns are not at their best at this time of year and I suggest a good scarification with a steel pronged lawn rake followed by the rigorous use of a hollow tined lawn aerator If the weather warms up a tadge run the mower over them on a high setting. They'll probably not want to come next year as the scars will still be healing. Remember, often you have to be cruel to be kind. About late April a generous dose of "weed and feed" and you should have a lawn to be the envy of all your neighbours
Easy go away for Christmas no problem
Which indigenous, British culture are you addressing? Most British people and indigenous, cultural teachings are very polite. I think your in-laws are either lazy, uncouth types or they thought you were repeatedly offering to spoil them when you diligently cleaned up after them. My parents always put out a bin or a bag for everyone to place their discarded wrap into, or they said something to the effect of "All right, let's all clean up the rubbish and get lunch ready." Next time try something like that. - Pepper.
Just your in-laws. What you need to do now is tell them how much you enjoyed their company and ask (ever so innocently) as you did it this year, who will be doing it next year. If none of them want to host it. let it go for now, then come next year have Christmas either just you and your husband, or with your family or friends. Good luck Cissie
say you have booked in somewhere for next christmas, ours have decided that we should buy a pull out sofa bed so they can stay here instead of pay for accommodation , which we had offered to pay half of.
They are disrespectful and lazy - and it has nothing to with the culture of a country, but rather to do with how they were raised. They sound spoiled, to me, and I wouldn't have them stay again. There are people like that here in Canada, as I expect that there are in most countries - more of a personality thing.
No just in-laws. me being British and all. If I am staying at a relatives house I treat that home with respect the same way I would treat my home. Keeping my own space tidy and helping when I can. my in-laws tried that with me once, expecting me to run around after them. i let them know it don't go like that in my house.
go out for Xmas Dinner....that's what we do....couldn't bear to put up with In Laws during my relaxing time off of work - i really wouldn't have it!!
I'm assuming you meant to write In Laws? If so it's not just a British thing. I'm british and will always get up to help but maybe they are thinking that they are your guest and therefore you do everything. As they are your husband's parents, he needs to be the one who has a word with them next time. For example, "Mum, Dad, we have placed in the kitchen next to the sink bins. The green one is for recycling, the black one for food waste and the purple one for paper. We'd appreciate it if you could sort your rubbish accordingly." Then when it comes to tea, he needs to say "Mum, could you please help with getting tea ready and Dad, can you please help in getting the table ready". If he doesn't want to get involved, then he either doesn't invite them next year or he does everything himself and you become part of the "In laws". I guarantee he'll say something or they won't be invited again! I also suggest that if you do have them again, then for the evening meal you have a buffet, everything is prepared and you put it out and let them get on with it. If they don't want to go out and get their food, then they go hungry! KD
Do not invite your in laws again or better still say next year you will stay with them.
If you invite people to your house, they are your guests and you look after them. If on the other hand they act like bad guests and are rude and unpleasant, tell them to mend their ways or leave.