The Grass Doctor - When women complain "Men don't do Housework", can us men start complaining how women don't mow lawns, etc.?

When women complain "Men don't do Housework", can us men start complaining how women don't mow lawns, etc.?

Too many women I work with love to bitch and moan about their husbands and how they don't help out with "housework" or washing up the dishes....and feminists love to bring out studies and statistics about how "men don't do enough work around the house" in 2009...but how many women do you know who mow the lawn? Take our the trash? Fix the car? Renovate the house? Trim the hedges? Tighten a leaky tap? Clean the gutters? If anything, us men do TOO much work around the house! Instead, we have feminists bitching about how men don't "do enough housework"...because, according to them, housework only involves vacuuming and cleaning...but what about all the other household work men do? I would happily start washing the dishes and dusting if WOMEN started taking the trash out and mowing the lawn... Why aren't men appreciated more for all the work they DO do?!

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Simple answer is that women are always right. I cannot ever remember winning any sort of argument with a women.
They are appreciated. I'm actually having the same problem, though. He won't even throw stuff INTO the garbage. Luckily, I don't have a lawn to mow. But I clean everything. I take out the trash. I try to fix what I can. I take my car into the maintenance people when needed. Can't renovate cause I rent. When I did have a house, I did mow, trim the hedges, etc. And worked full-time, went to school - blah blah blah. You can complain about whatever you want. And so can I. Now, start with dusting the wood please. I have a swiffer. LOL I'll change your oil. :)
women pay workers to mown the lawn, fix the car, renovate the house, trim the hedges, tighten a leaky tap and women pay (or split the bills with their partner) for maids to take out trash and clean the gutters, or women do it themselves if there's no maid. i think you speak based on your domestic routines, and to tell you, your life isn't like the majority number of men out there. however, mown the lawn, fix the car, renovate the house, trim the hedges, tighten a leaky tap = only need to be done once in a while and take out trash and clean the gutters = only need to be done weekly or half weekly. but the other houseworks and childcare = heavy and daily.
Mowing the lawn once a week, taking out the trash, and fixing the occasionally leaky sink is nowhere near the work of preparing meals, washing dishes, washing clothes, cleaning bathrooms, making beds, mopping floors, vacuuming, floors, ironing clothes, etc. Most people do not renovate their own homes and many people do not fix their own cars. In any case these are hardly everyday household tasks, unless fiddling with cars is a hobby (no one's hobby is laundry). Comparing dozens of daily and weekly tasks to one 5 second daily task and one hour long weekly task just makes it seem like you can't do math.
One Solution: Eviction. Live alone and do all the house work and home repairs. Another solution: Cleaning service, handyman(/woman). Pay for the house work and the home repairs. Another solution: Rock Paper Scissors. Assign labour per job. Glad I could help.
they should be....make sure ur own wife does appreciate it next time!! also may I say that taps dont break every day, nor does the lawn need mowing every day, so even though the jobs you do, may be harder than the jobs she does, you dont have to do them 3 times a day.
LOL most men don't do all those things. If they did then it would be unfair. Then again, stuff like washing, washing up etc has to be done almost every day whereas fixing a tap or mowing the lawn is far less often.
occasionally, she mows the lawn and ill do the dishes. If something needs doing in our house, we do it. No matter the plumbing.
Done everything - mowed, trimmed, fixed car, take out trash a lot, fixed leaky taps, cleaned gutters. Have not renovated a house. It my surprise you to know that some women are independent of men and actually live without men in some cases.
No. Lawns DON'T need to be mowed three times a day every day of the year, spring summer fall and winter. Meals, however, DO need to be cooked, pots and pans washed, etc., SEVERAL TIMES DAILY spring summer fall and winter. There are many chores that add up over the course of a day. Women do the bulk of household and domestic chores in every country on earth.
Not only that but men tend to work longer/more hours than their partner as well.. Therefore it is completely absurd and ridiculous when they whine about how men don't do enough housework or expect men to do equal amount..
you are completely stereotypical. i know plenty of women who mow the lawn, take out the trash, trim the hedges, and plenty of other things that are considered "men's work" along with cleaning the house on the other hand, there are men who do the same. "you men" need to find a balance with the women in you life.
Well, things like mowing the lawn and fixing the car tend to be things that only need to be done occasionally. Whereas the business of cleaning and tidying the house, cooking and clearing up after meals etc is a pretty much continuous process that needs to be kept up with. So it is understandable that women who are working full time and also doing most of the domestic work are disgruntled that they are doing everything with little or no help. My own feeling is that if they are married to the sort of men who don't do anything in the house, they would do better to lower their own standards and do less themselves. Sometimes this has the effect of encouraging men to do more (that at any rate is the theory behind The Surrendered Wife). Even if it doesn't, I still think it would be better if women didn't knock themselves out too much around the house, especially if they are also holding down a full-time job. If the man doesn't care if the house is clean and tidy, or if dinner gets cooked, don't worry about it too much yourself, that's how I feel. However, modern feminism was originally based on the notion that women at home didn't have enough to do with their time because housework is so easy nowadays. In The Feminine Mystique Betty Friedan wrote confidently that a woman should be able to do a full-time job and knock off the housework in an hour or so when she got home, without troubling men at all. It does not seem to have worked out, since women, rather than being delighted at having jobs and doing all the domestic work as well, find it all too much for them. There is another alternative of course, which is for the woman to give up the job and just stay at home and concentrate on the domestic work, but I realise that this is not a popular option with most women, who are fanatically devoted to their jobs.
I do not know what people are complaining about. Washing laundry only takes time because the person has to wait for the clothes to wash, then dry (unless you use a washboard). The only exception is if something is heavily stained, but with all the cleaners available, that should not be much of a problem. I know too many people who "cook dinner" by heating up a microwavable meal or opening a can, dumping the contents into a pot and turning the burner on. Most housework can be easy if things are taken care of daily. Instead of cleaning the bathroom once a year, weekly or monthly (or whatever is needed) touch up can reduce the amount of time spent cleaning. Washing dishes is also easy enough, unless there is food cemented on or the dishes stack up for three months. Who wasted time and money conducting a study to determine which gender completes more household tasks? No one makes anyone do housework. Just let everything stack up until someone breaks down and feels the need to take care of it.
Yeah, okay, I mow the lawn, I take out the trash, and I have cleaned gutters, you only have to do that about once a year, so, what's your point?
I take the trash out and mow the lawn. I really shouldn't be mowing the lawn because I am allergic to the grass and it causes me to sneeze and get itchy spots. However, I also do most of the home maintenance because I'm home more often and I like doing it. Don't assume that all women don't do those things because many of them do.
It is interesting that your list of the jobs you say men do are occasional jobs, mow the lawn, once a week in the summer, not at all in the winter, fix the car, in my house that has been once this year, take out the trash, two or three times a week, trim the hedges, again a few times a year, clean the gutters, once a year, renovate a house, fix a leaky tap. Then lets look at housework, cook meals, up to three times a day, wash up again several times a day, clean the house, washing, ironing, shopping, changing beds, tidying up., not forgetting childcare, etc etc etc. Most of these chores are done daily, often several times a day, or at least once a week, all year round. I do not think I am unusual in saying that I have many times mowed the lawn, taken out the trash, dug the garden, trimmed the hedge and even done a lot of the renovation work on at least four houses. That your wife does not do any these jobs is hardly surprising if you leave all the housework, cooking, childcare etc to her. I challenge you, get your wife to list all the chores and the time she spends doing them for a month and you do the same. If this does not make you see how unfair the division of labour is in your house then you are a lost cause and another man who is only likely to realise all that his wife does after she has left him.
-cough- You should try seeing things from a woman's point of view then. Let's see. (Points are per month) Women - Daily -Cooking x3 - 30 -Dishes x3 - 30 -Kids xInfinity - 50 Women - Few times a week -Tidying - 8 -Laundry - 12 -Cleaning - 8 -Vacuuming - 4 -Shopping - 4 Women - Monthly -Close to nothing - 1 Men - Daily -What??!! Nothing??!!! - 1 Men - Few times a week -Trash - 8 Men - Monthly -Mow the lawn - 1 -Trim hedges -1 -Tighten leaky tap -1 -Clean gutters -1 Men - Close to never (I know you dont fix the car and renovate once a month but I don't wanna give fraction points so have a bonus xD) -Fix the car - 1 -Renovate House - 1 Now let's give one point to everything you do. And the grand total is... Women - 146 Men - 15 Wow, big difference. I'd have to say most of the range came from the daily work us women have to do. And the amount we have to do it each day. Oh, by the way, I haven't even factored in difficulty, psychology, and stamina. So quit complaining and do your girl some good.
FIrst LOL at J for the awesome math... And for giving women 10 points for shopping... LOL. Men all take 10 points for scratching your balls. Women get 10 points for anything that takes less than 30 mins to do. Men get 1 point for anything they do and 1/2 points for monthly/ seasonal stuff. Moving the lawn takes .. with average lawn about 1/2 a day. your mileage may vary.. fixing a busted pipe, window, etc for any reason.. apparently unfathomable by women... b/c most have said noone does that but they don't realize they call someone to fix it.Guess someone does it. Sorry about all this. I never have and never will lose an argument to a woman. Here's how to win. Woman says you don't do any housework.... Do only house work... Something that is a dish or the mop break... let the woman call a repair man *this may require you to fight the urge to fix it yourself or they doing it wrong, let that go. Point out wrongness when it's done.) Let the woman pay for it with her money .... not your money.. See how long it takes before she's complaining that you never fix anything around the house... also watch for her to begin watching lots more TV with the free time from you helping do housework only... And on Saturday F*** the lawn she can pay someone to mow it. She'll come around either logically or financially. Then you're suddenly worth something. Just make sure she doesn't forget and take it for granite (spelling)
The only permanent job my hubby has regarding housework is taking out the garbage. Thats it. I
Maybe if women stopped gluing our private parts together we might be able to help out more...
"Why aren't men appreciated more for all the work they DO do?!" In my house they are. You guys must be in bad relationships. Personally, I mow grass, clean gutters, trim trees and hedges (I have my own chain saw) shovel snow, participate in the renovation of the house ( I stripped drywall off of 2 walls last weekend, loaded the trailer and drove it to the landfill, and unloaded it myself.) Of course, my man cooks, washes dishes and does laundry almost as often as I do - we share just about everything. But here is the rub: Traditionally female household jobs are extremely repetitive - traditionally male jobs are seasonal. So during the winter months, you may have to shovel snow a few times IF it snows, but she still has to wash the dishes, dust, do the laundry and clean the toilets every week. Lets analyze: Mowing grass - seasonal cleaning gutters - seasonal auto maintenance - every 3000 miles, not every week clean the gutters- seasonal take out the trash - there is your one daily chore Wash dishes - daily sweep floors - daily clean bathrooms - weekly or more often laundry - weekly or daily, depending on habit and family size cooking - daily gardening - that's a seasonal job
Know what's sad? A lot of men don't do housework because their wife nags them about not doing it "right". It's her own freakin' fault that he's not doing it, and then she has the nerve to nag him about it? Ugh. I hate that. And yeah, men should start whining about how women never change the oil, replace the brakes, put air in the tires, fix that broken step on the front stairs, or any other "man jobs". "Why aren't men appreciated more for all the work they DO do?!" Tell me about it! Around here, both me and hubs try to make a point of appreciating each other for the work we do. He thanks me after most meals, and now and then takes me in his arms and thanks me for taking care of our home and children. I thank him for fixing the car, shoveling the snow and de-icing the front steps, for working to support us. It keeps things peaceful, because neither of us feels unappreciated for the work we do. And as a bonus, our kids say "thank you" for things, too! I don't know why people fight about chores and work and responsibilities....it's so unnecessary. Wow.....all the women seem to be able to justify the nagging and complaining and the belief that women work harder and do more. Sad.
This is something I constantly brought up in my Women Studies classes, and of course, according to all of them, THEY do ALL of that too! I say bullshit to that. Look, some women may help out mowing the lawn, changing the cars oil, ripping up stumps, or doing other such things outside. SOME, but a vast majority do not. I know I have never dated a girl who does these things, and I know now that I moved in with my girlfriend, she hasn't done any of it, and I don't expect her to. The problem is that women nowadays expect men to split household chores 50/50, but then refuse to accept the fact that by splitting 50/50, they're supposed help out with the "guy tasks" as well. Although women claim to help (or say the will/would help), the reality is that most do not (please note - most, not all). I woud love to see a study taken of females asking about this subject, getting their responses, and then polling their male counterparts, and seeing theirs. I think there would be stark differences in what women say and what their partners actually see. All that being said, for the most part, a guy working on "honey do" lists won't spend as much time throughout a week as a woman would doing household chore. Cooking, cleaning, dishes, etc are all essentially every day talks, whereas, the lawn needs to be mowed once a week, the oil gets changed once every couple months, and things randomly need to be fixed every once in awhile. As such, men should help out around the house, more so than women do. I think the "daily" tasks should be about evenly split (cooking, dishes, tidying, etc). Personally, I know for a fact that I do more than my girlfriend does. I do a majority of the cooking, all the yardwork, car mainenance, home repairs, etc. However, she does most of the laundry, basic cleaning (although it's not much as I'm a very neat person, and there's just 2 of us in the house), and I'm sure there are other odds and ends that I don't even notice. That being said, we do help each other out with stuff - I do the laundry from time to time, and typically we'll fold it together. Normally when I'm cooking, she'll help out if she can (maybe cook the veges when I'm getting the meat set up), or do the dishes as I use them. We do what we can to make each other's lives easier.
No. It is considered sexist by society for a man to complain about a woman, regardless of how much she complains about him. Actually, a woman complaining about her husband and how much work she does around the house is very much encouraged in society. It's a badge of honor. Men are expected to talk about how great their wives are and how lucky they are to have them. I'll say this though: "If anything, us men do TOO much work around the house!" I wouldn't really agree with that. "Why aren't men appreciated more for all the work they DO do?!" I do agree with this. Women will say "you only mow the grass once every 5 days." Yeah, well, I don't see too many women jumping up to do it once every 5 days. I know a lot more men who cook and clean than women who mow grass, but God forbid you actually mention that. In my entire life I can count on the fingers of one hand how many women I've actually seen mowing grass. Most single women I know feel like they're entitled to get one of their neighbors (men) to mow the grass. Some other chores you mentioned are the same way. I would say most women at least do help with renovating the house though, although men do end up generally doing the bulk of the grunt work. But then we are better equipped for that. If you really want someone to know just how important the work you do is, just don't do it for a while. When that grass is up to their knees they'll think twice about it.